"I attended my first back-to-school night as a single mom this last fall and my oldest son’s 6th grade teacher was addressing the parents about how if it were up to him, he wouldn’t use grades at all. “Learning is a journey,” he said. “It does not end in a year.” It’s true, you know, it never stops.
Sometimes I have days that rattle my confidence. I think about my boys, about how I worry about them. About the heaviness of the responsibility of parenthood in general, let alone single parenthood. I think about the stress that doing this alone puts on me financially, morally, mentally.
When that happens, the big things then turn into the little things, and suddenly I’m there questioning absolutely everything. It’s a painful place to stop and rest. In those moments, I’ve learned, I just have to stop and love myself through it.
I bought my Fred & Far pinky ring to commemorate the one year anniversary of asking my husband to leave. When I look at it, I don’t worry about how much money I had made that day or if I laughed too loud in my Instagram story or if my divorce is going to ruin my son’s lives.
In the most simple and spiritual way, I just feel connected to that powerful divine femininity, to the tribe of women who are real, right now, doing this right along with me. When I look at it, I know I don’t need a man to make me whole. I am whole and complete and perfect just as I am. When I look at it I know I can keep going, I can keep learning, I know that I am powerful and more than enough. My ring is my reminder."
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