The One Who Stopped Waiting

The One Who Stopped Waiting

When I look at my ring I am reminded of my own confidence, to practice self-love and self-care, all of which I had lost when I broke up with my ex. People say you shouldn’t let relationships get the better of you, and all people are different and deal with many situations differently. I took it as “there must be something wrong with me.” It’s often hard to face reality that love doesn’t always last and being that I was very much in love, I wasn’t taking the aftermath well.  

This ring was for me, from me.

I remember looking at the Fred and Far website in 2018 and instantly fell in love with the ring. Every now and again I would take a sneak peak and go have a look on the website I said to myself “one day I will buy this ring, and I will have one of my own." I was sensible and took a step back I wanted to wait until I was ready both within myself, emotionally with the heartbreak and also financially to purchase the ring.

My ring is a daily reminder to love myself and to love who I have become today through all of my ups and downs. My ring symbolizes my personality, my independence, my hard work, my success, my self-worth, and damn well shows that “I don’t need a man to buy me a diamond ring” as I can buy one for myself. #myringismyreminder.

My ring is a daily reminder to love myself and to love who I have become today through all of my ups and downs. My ring symbolizes my personality, my independence, my hard work, my success, my self-worth, and damn well shows that “I don’t need a man to buy me a diamond ring” as I can buy one for myself. #myringismyreminder.

I think a lot of women are made to believe that a diamond ring is for marriage, engagement and only comes from your partner so they wait around for “the one” to buy them a diamond ring. Let’s turn the tables around in 2020 I hope more women buy themselves a diamond ring that is precious to them just as mine is to me.

What did I gain after buying myself this ring?

Other than the personal gratification that comes of hard work or success, all of my personal or professional triumphs are now symbolized through an object synonymous with beauty and opulence. If that’s not enough incentive to invest in yourself and in the precious jewel, then I don’t know what is. I needed something as a replacement, something that could not only give me hope and courage, but something that was also one-of-a-kind, like me.  

November 2019 was the year I decided to buy the ring, and ever since that day I am not wondering there must be something wrong with me, as I am too busy investing in myself, I literally received this beauty on my birthday November 2019! From that day on, I rarely take this ring off, not just because it is versatile and goes pretty much with everything I wear, but because of my significant emotional connection to it.

The moment I received this beautiful ring I remember how I felt overwhelmed, happy, excited like I could truly overcome anything, and so for the past few years of my life, this ring has severed as a constant reminder and a symbol of hope, strength and the courage to not only love again, but to always love myself first.

This ring was for me, from me.

-Mevy Qureshi, East London, UK

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