"I’ve always loved hard. The bad thing about loving so hard, though, is I always fall hard, too, when things are over. I’ve had a few key relationships that have really done me in when they ended. The problem was in my approach to love. I sometimes give too much of myself to others, leaving too little for me. So, when things end, I can find myself lost, having forgotten the core of who I am, or having given too much of myself away in compromise. It was in heartbreak that I realized I needed to love myself more. Without love...
This week we're proud to share Melody Godfred, founder of Fred and Far, and author of Self Love Poetry: for Thinkers & Feelers. What does union mean to you? Union evokes so much for me. Togetherness. Fullness. Wholeness. Balance. Alignment. Peace. It’s something that I used to think only applied externally – meaning, it can only be achieved with another person or thing (i.e. the coming together of two halves to form a whole). But the more I’ve learned about and experienced self love, the more union has become a concept that for me is closely tied to self-integration. To...
"A few months ago, I discovered the concept of the “self love pinky ring.” Basically, a reminder of the promise made to show yourself love. It’s something I’ve been working at pretty diligently lately. I don’t have a great track record of loving myself, and am actually pretty skilled at unintentional self-sabotage. The idea of loving myself actually used to make me SO uncomfortable. Because I didn’t think I deserved it. But I want that to change. I’m striving for that to change. Now is a ring going to fix all of that? No. But it’s a solid reminder of...
This week we're proud to share sisterhood member Shannon Amrein. After being diagnosed with Lyme disease and being sick for many years, Shannon found herself at a crossroads: either keep following the allopathic methods of treatment that were making her sicker or forge a new path. She decided to take a new path and ended up healing herself completely from all diseases using energetic techniques. That journey inspired her to study and learn more about healing, so she could share this amazing recovery with others. Today, Shannon is a Shamanic practitioner, trained in the lineage of contemporary Star and Earth Shamanism. She...
While we love the original white sapphire Self Love Pinky Ring that started it all, it’s exciting to now offer the Self Love Chakra Ring collection so you can make your ring extra personal. These Limited Edition Enamel Rings in our signature Mini Self Love Pinky Ring setting are metaphysically charged with certain benefits and meanings, so make sure to read through them all to pick the ring that is just right for you. Chakras are energy centers in the body and they must be in balance to live a life full of joy and bliss. Chakras are formed from patterns and...
"I bought my ring a few months ago when I was having a hard time at work. Blue topaz is not only my birth stone but it is also linked to your ability to express yourself, which is what I really needed to do. I wear it every single day and I can’t tell you how much that reminder gets me through whatever I need to do. It’s such a simple thing, the ring, and yet it serves such an enormous purpose. Thank you so so so much!" - Maritza
Connect with Maritza on Instagram @maritzamelania.
Be joyful, we proclaim to each other. But the truth is – if you’re anything like me – knowing what brings you joy gets harder and harder to pin down the older and busier you get. When I was a teenager and later in my twenties, my joy was always within arm’s reach: my besties, my favorite CD and headphones, weekend getaways to Palm Springs to get a tan. Joy was attainable because I knew my joy, intimately. As I grew up, my responsibilities mounted, and with that, my joy slowly dissipated. The more I worked, the more I achieved,...
This week we're proud to share sisterhood member Lindsey Klein, a Los Angeles based fashion designer that inspires women to live their dream life through fashion. Creator of Liberated Society Fashion and also Fred and Far's marketing coordinator, in this interview she shares her advice on what joy is, living a life full of joy, and how important it is to prioritize your joy. How do you define joy? To me, joy is a feeling of bliss that happens naturally and effortlessly when living in alignment with who you truly are. It is a conscious state of being that we must decide...
"After years of putting myself down due to trauma that occurred in childhood and quite a catastrophic life event, my AHA! moment came was when I was forced to leave the comfort of my apartment temporarily to come back home to the very place where my childhood trauma had began. I began to realize that I needed to begin to put myself first and start therapy, and to truly take care of myself so that upon my return home I could take care of my son and husband. To be present. To be grateful, but to always know that no...
This week we're proud to share sisterhood member Shivani Reddy, a photographer based in SoCal that captures moments in time. She focuses on authentic and raw emotion to help drive the story behind her imagery. For the past 10 years she has photographed weddings, families, expecting mothers, and everything in between. Her personal mission is to encourage individuals to find beauty in the imperfect moments that make for the best memories and most passionate stories. What inspired you to do the work you’re doing? My grandfather had an admiration for all things photography and he practically raised me from kindergarten...
" #theabcsofselflove challenge Day 2️⃣ Boundaries. This is such a big one for me - it’s actually how I started doing the @fredandfar challenges. Boundaries are awesome. It’s better to say no and honor your feelings than “suck It up” to do what everyone else wants and be miserable. Yesterday I had a horrible headache and decided to stay off my phone for most of the day (also why I’m posting this a day late). A silly boundary - but It made a big impact. These little boundaries set you up to define your bigger boundaries.I am a recovering people...
Self care isn't selfish. We know this. And yet - when we make time to care for ourselves, we feel, well, guilty. It's time to let science settle this debate once and for all: is it good for us to practice Self Care Sunday, or are we simply giving ourselves an excuse to be selfish? The Definition of Self Care Before we dive into the science behind self care, it's important to know what self care is. According to the UK Department of Health: “Self care is a part of daily living. It is the care taken by individuals towards their...
