Almost a year ago, I was drugged and raped in a foreign country. I began to feel defined by what happened to me and it made me feel unworthy of love. Then, by accident, I came across the Self Love Pinky Ring. Fred and Far and the self love movement - helping women love themselves - spoke directly to me. Thanks to learning about self love, I realized that despite what had happened to me, despite how terrible I felt about myself every day, I was worthy of love. More specifically, I was worthy of love from ME just for being...
When I came across the Self Love Pinky ring, I fell in love with everything about it... During this pandemic, negativity is a natural reaction. But I chose to be positive: to spread love and positivity within myself and others. It must have worked because my 13 year-old daughter ALSO wanted to choose self love, so I ordered us both Pinky Rings. When we got them, we made a promise together: to feel whole, worthy, and loved within ourselves and to give that same love to each other. Thank you to the beautiful Melody and Fred and Far for reminding us all the...
I don’t know when it happened, but over the past few years I started living for others before I lived for me. I chipped away pieces of myself and gave them away freely. I felt like I was the supporting friend in a movie and letting others take the lead... in a movie that was supposed to be MY life! And then, suddenly, I had no more pieces of me for myself. At my rock bottom, I relearned that you can’t take care of others if you’re not right within. Wearing this pinky promise ring is a daily reminder to save some unconditional love for myself too...
When I was in my mid-20s, I had managed to get everything I thought I wanted: a long-term relationship, a masters degree and a dream job. Within the space of 18 months, my relationship ended, my job was abruptly over, I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, and lost my beloved grandmother. Every day since then has been a step in the climb back. Not back to who I was, but to my transformed self; an older, wiser and more deliberate woman. It’s a journey towards a cloudy peak and it isn’t clear who is waiting for me there, but the conscious choice to always choose myself...
We all have our stories; those stories make us who we are. Our stories set us free. Life happens, and life changes us. I’ve been asked so many times where I find my happiness and peace. I don’t believe in religion, but my happiness and peace comes from Jesus. I was raised in a Baptist church, and my Daddy was a Deacon and Sunday School teacher. He and my Momma sang in the choir. I was taught about Jesus ever since I can remember. I’ve been through some horrific events in my life, from being abused as a young girl...
I thought 2020 would be the year I got everything I wanted. Didn't we all? 2020. The year our dreams come to fruition. A new beginning. A new era. The year of perfect vision. My 2020 vision board captures a lot of what I hoped for this year: a long-awaited trip to Japan, a book tour for the new book I was going to write, cutouts of beautiful gowns for the celebrations I planned to attend. Wellness, balance, joy… all represented in various ways. I also had role models on my board, like Toni Morrison and Oprah Winfrey. And on...
When I met her my wife was an oncology nurse mixing chemo drugs and administering them to cancer patients. She was beloved by her patients and was showered with gifts while other nurses were not. After five years of administering chemo with 60 cc syringes she developed pain running up and down her hand, wrist and arm. She was forced to retire from oncology And her Worker’s compensation doctor suggested surgery to her wrist. All they did was prescribe her opioids and surgery. She was not happy with the Western Medical options that were presented to her. We went to...
Pinky promises were a part of my childhood and I always took those acts of keeping a promise to heart! I am going through a journey of healing after the end of my marriage. When I saw the Self Love Pinky Ring I knew I could make the same pinky promise I did when I was a child: to give back and choose myself. I took my wedding ring off and am replacing it with the Self Love Pinky Ring as a promise to take care of me and who I am. Even if I decide to get married again one day,...
Most of the information that clouds my brain can be put into two categories: don’t forget, and can’t forget. This past year, I’ve made a conscious decision to do away with both. The result? Liberation. Let me explain. For most of my 37 years, I kept track of things, not on to do lists, or in calendar entries, but in my brain. Floating among my 100 billion neurons, were thoughts like, “Buy birthday present. Make dentist appointment. Pay doctor bill. Plan date night. Call friend from college. Replace light bulb. Write newsletter. Pay IT vendor.” And on. And on. And...
I am incredibly generous and always seem to be pouring all of my love and energy into someone else instead of myself. As women I think we are taught to be caregivers. When we put our needs first it is often perceived as selfish, which is such a negative message. Spending the last few months in quarantine was a harsh reminder that the only person who will really care about my well-being is me! I wondered why I didn’t give myself the same love I kept trying to give to everyone else. With my Self Love Pinky Ring, I'm proclaiming that now is the time to...
"I thought 2020 would be the year I got everything I wanted. Now I know 2020 is the year I appreciate everything I have." Melody Godfred @fredandfar (the 20/20 poem) When I wrote these words in June of 2020, we were merely two months into this pandemic, and yet like everyone else, I was paralyzed by fear and uncertainty regarding what the year would bring. Writing this poem was my way of reclaiming the year, and shifting my perspective to one of gratitude. Because it's true. I've never been more grateful for or aware of the abundant blessings in my...
Every holiday, I create a new keychain that embodies the spirit of the year, and gift it with jewelry purchases as our holiday promotion. This year, I'm so proud to share the Gratitude Keychain, which features my favorite poem from my new book, Self Love Poetry for Thinkers and Feelers. After a year that pushed us all to the brink, it is a reminder that there is still so much to be grateful for. Most of all, I'm grateful for you. Thank you for making this sisterhood possible, and breathing life into it every day by being, choosing and loving your true...
