Is it possible to regain your sex drive? I seem to have completely lost mine since my daughter was born two years ago. I just go through the motions to make my husband happy. I love him madly, but do not have any desire any longer. Hi going through the motions, First let me say that you are not alone. In fact, lack of desire is one of top concerns women bring to sex therapy. The nature of desire has been a subject I have been passionate to explore and understand. I have found that understanding how sexual desire works...
Nature vs. nurture. A question we’ve been battling since the dawn of time, and yet no definitive answer. That is until now. That's right. I've figured it out. In 2012, I gave birth to twin girls who are polar opposites: Stella Avery and Violet Harper. Stella is a replica of my husband: tall, blonde, fair-skinned, positive, enlightened, fiercely independent. Violet is my mini me: petite, brunette, tan, emotional, imaginative, brown-eyed, and full of love. Five years later, they are exactly who they were at the hospital when they arrived six full weeks early. Watching them grow up has been a matter of validating and...
If you're following us on Instagram @fredandfar, you're probably already familiar with our Radical Thoughts series. For us, radical thoughts are the simple, self-evident truths that easily get overlooked. The truths that need to be proclaimed as radical so that they receive the attention they deserve. Here are some of our favorites. Make sure to follow on Instagram so you get them in real time. This week's Self Love Challenge is to come up with your own Radical Thoughts and share them. The more radical the better. We'll add yours to the list. Fred and Far's Radical Thoughts Radical Thoughts on...
A few days ago, my four-year-old daughter looked at me and said, “Mommy, you’re gorgeous. You don’t need mascara or lipstick.” I wish I could say I fully believed her. But I didn’t. And I haven’t, for a long time. At 35, I’ve been hating aspects of my body for at least 25 years. And although I’m learning to change my self-perception, and working every day to see myself through a lens of love and gratitude, 25 years is a hell of a habit to break. It’s a challenge I’m up for, though. I owe that to myself. I owe that to the...
"Since my first time having sex, already 13 years ago, I’ve almost never had sex without getting a bladder infection or UTI. It's terrible because I start to get scared of having sex more than enjoying it, as I always think of the pain that will follow, and the antibiotics, and the shame. I’ve tried so many things, from peeing right after sex to drinking a lot of water, but nothing has worked... Help! P.S: does birth control have something to do with it? Because I started taking it before I started having sex and just stopped taking it 6...
"Hello! My 'Husband', for lack of a better term, and I have been engaged for 3 years, and together for a total of 6. At first, and I mean for the first 4 years or so, the passion and Sex was out of this world. We couldn't stay away let alone off of each other. However, since we've had our son (almost 3 yrs) that's all changed. I knew it would at first but I thought eventually I'd get that burning fire back. Nope, not at all. I don't think about sex, I don't want sex, but actually I DO,...
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection” – Buddha Self love is a funny concept, isn’t it? We are always taught that you should not be too prideful, arrogant, or boastful. Perhaps this is why self love can be such a tricky concept to grasp and then put into practice. It is important to know that self love and narcissism are two very different things and should not be confused for one another. Here are some of the main differences between these two concepts so that you can fully understand self love...
Self Care Sunday. Three magical words that will change your life if you let them. I first discovered the concept of #SelfCareSunday on Instagram, where I manage the @fredandfar page and engage with our community. In 2017, women around the world have been sharing acts of self care every Sunday with the hashtag, and in doing so, have furthered the self love revolution that I so passionately advocate for. Why is posting a picture of yourself in the bathtub with a glitter bath bomb on a Sunday morning so important?Because for most women, the idea of making self care a consistent,...
As a woman, as a daughter, and as a mother of daughters, I’m fascinated by the magic we house within us, a magic that I believe can and will heal the planet – if we let it. Self care and self love unlock this intrinsic magic, and it is our divine responsibility to practice both on a daily basis, and to teach our girls to do the same. To discover and honor the relationship between mothers and daughters, and to explore the magic of being a woman, I invited tribe members Lenea Sims, with her mother Loretta Brazil, and Shyla...
