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SELF LOVE

Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power by Audre Lorde

As an empowered woman, you've probably already heard about feminist, womanist, activist and writer Audre Lorde. And if you've read any of her quotes, you know that she's a master at crafting evocative poetry and prose that gets straight to the heart of the matter. The thing is, a quote from her is simply no match for her essays. In The Erotic as Power, published in 1978, Audre offers a detailed analysis of female power and why it is so often limited, constrained, labeled, put in a box, left to gather dust. I would paraphrase, but I'd be doing her and...

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Find your ME

I found my ME in an A Minor chord waiting to be played on my piano  I found my ME tucked away on the top shelf of my library in a book by Toni Morrison filled with the most decadent prose  I found my ME in ticket stubs from an outdoor concert where everyone knew the words and was singing along  I found my ME in a picture of cobbled streets of a far away city only explored by the most curious travelers  I found my ME in a faded journal filled with feelings felt by a girl who felt everything ...

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How to Love Yourself (The Cycle of Self)

You begin by knowing yourself. Who you are, now, today, not who you were before, who you wish you were, or who others wish you were. You. Today. Now. Your essence. Your me. This is self discovery.As you discover and embrace yourself and your needs, you begin to care for them. You make time. You make space. You nurture yourself with your attention and commitment. This is self care.You know who you are, and you care for yourself. All parts of you. The good, the bad, the light, the dark, the popular, the unpopular, the complex, the simple. This is...

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Eartha Kitt on Love and Compromise

  A must-watch video of Earth Kitt being interviewed about love and compromise in relationships. Question: Can anyone live with Eartha Kitt? That’s not for me to decide. That’s for someone who decides to live with me to decide. Not for me. Question: But are you willing to compromise within a relationship? Compromise? What is compromising? Compromising for what? Compromising for what reason? To compromise? For what! What is compromise.   Question: If a man came into your life, wouldn’t you want to compromise? (laughing hysterically, incredulous) Stupid. A man comes into my life, and I have to compromise? You...

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Self Love Is All Your Need

If anger sets you on fire, let self love be your water. If shame suffocates you, let self love be your air. If doubt paralyzes you, let self love be your wind. If fear isolates you, let self love be your shelter. If anxiety attacks you, let self love defend you. If depression clouds you, let self love be your light. 

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I am Mine

I am mine: to define. to encourage. to enlighten. to adore. to delight. to accomodate. to accept. to welcome. to love.

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Who am I?

This is a woman who is whole. A woman who is loved and cared for. A woman who invests in exploring and being her true self, her ME. A woman who believes in the bond among women. A brave woman. A worthy woman. A chosen woman. A phenomenal woman.

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Awakening

I took the breath. It was my first step. I let time slow. That was my next step.  I stopped rushing. Filling time. Feeling busy. Feeling full but empty and dull.  I closed my eyes. I looked in. I found it all.  Everything that had been brushed aside.  Overlooked. Unacknowledged.  My ME was there.  Patient. Waiting. There. All along.  I opened my eyes. My next step.  I let my ME lead. THE defining step.   The changes were subtle. They were extreme.  They were everything in between.   

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Mother of Dragons

I spoke to my mom today to ask how my daughters are doing since I'm out of town and she’s taking care of them. She told me about how they used flowers pots to create a nook in the backyard where they can read books. She said, “It was completely their idea!” and of course it was. Because they are four. And they are still their untarnished, purest versions. They are full of good ideas and confidence and light and feelings they are feeling in real time. My job is not to crush them. To help them preserve their ME,...

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The Last Guest to Arrive

11 pm. Everyone in the house asleep, except for me. And so, my anxiety invites herself into the room to keep me company. She takes what was the air and makes it into her pool. She does laps around the room and I hold my breath, submerged, paralyzed, at her whim. My anxiety is clever. She likes to play dress up. Sometimes she shows up disguised as spiders. Other times a man in the corner of the room. I'm asleep. I'm awake. I'm somewhere in between. She is with me everywhere.  I see her. I don't mean figuratively. She manifests herself and...

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Obsession

There was a time, that my ME was drunk on obsession. Replaying old stories on repeat, until I shamed or blamed myself into oblivion. Starving myself of food and love and self acceptance. Consuming myself with judgment - from others, from myself. All the things that could have been done better. The body parts that should look better. Function better. The milestones that remain out of reach. The mistakes, the mistakes, the mistakes. My ME was high on these regrets. The insufficiency. The dreams deferred. But now my ME is sober. My ME creates space for the unknown. She can...

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In Bloom

All the parts I locked away and neglected Are opening. I reveal myself to myself, And revel in myself. Turns out I am not a tight bud desperately trying to keep it all together. I am an open blossom who is ready to let it all go, And take it all in.