I remember when my self-body-shaming began. I was about 10 years old and suddenly it dawned on me: I have thighs. At nine, I had legs. Like everyone else on the planet, male, female, adult, child. But now, at 10, the same age I developed my first crush on a boy, I realized I didn’t have legs. I had thighs. And I didn’t like them. Add into the mix that with puberty came body hair, and now my thighs were not only too big, they were too hairy, and I, an introvert who very easily falls prey to shame, was...
"I bought my ring on Feb 1, 2019. December and January had been particularly hard months for me, between work and my personal life. I bought this ring in the morning, deciding I would start making some changes. I got off work early, and thought I would fit in a little nap before my son got off the bus. I woke up to a phone call from my mother, telling me to come to my parents right away. It was my dad - paramedics were working on him but it wasn’t good. Two hours later, he was pronounced dead at...
“In July 2018, I bought my first Fred and Far ring. After seeing the Facebook posts, following Melody's inspiring messages, and debating with a gal pal about which ring I wanted, I ordered the black spinel ring that was being promoted for ‘Friday the 13th.’🔻The purchase was symbolic of a journey I started that previous spring, which included finding things about myself and learning who I was all over again after some previous set-backs. It was to mark the changes I made in myself and the changes I planned to make going forward. Since then, I've lost 80 lbs (my...
We’ve listed 7 of our favorite self love books to empower your self love journey. From spirituality and emotional healing to entrepreneurship and female empowerment, these authors touch on a range of important themes relevant to living a happy, healthy life. You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, By Jen Sincero If it isn’t already, this how-to guide should be at the top of your reading list! Written by bestselling author and world-traveling success coach Jen Sincero, this hilarious and inspiring book will take you on a spiritual journey to change self-sabotaging beliefs...
Selena Gomez just released a new single, Lose You To Love Me, that offers a stripped-down sound that is the perfect pairing for the song's unprecedented vulnerability. While we can guess who the song is about, the theme is unmistakable: that sometimes, the road home to oneself is paved with broken hearts. But is it worth it? Absolutely. About the song, Selena wrote in a statement, "This song was inspired by many things that have happened in my life since releasing my last album. I thought it was important to share the music, as I know many can relate to the fact that...
A little over six months ago, my dear friend Shani Silver launched a podcast by, for and about single women called A Single Serving Podcast. The goal: to change the conversation around being single into one that doesn't suck. Spoiler alert: it's really good. So good that it has already had 60,000 downloads. Shani has been single for eleven years. And she's not mad about it. Her perspective is outrageously uplifting, refreshing, and most of all, real. Her column for Refinery29, Every Single Day, is one of the site's most successful for precisely these reasons. I feel lucky that I got to...
Self love is priceless. It’s one of the few things that is accessible to anyone, and it has always been a priority of ours to make our Self Love Pinky Ring equally as accessible. We understand that the Self Love Pinky Ring is a big investment, and the last thing we want is for you to purchase something you can't afford all at once. For that reason, we've incorporated afterpay as a payment option on our website, which allows you to pay for your purchase in 4 equal installments every 2 weeks with no interest. How is afterpay able to do that?...
Ready to jump-start your self love journey with a new self love challenge? When I wrote The ABCs of Self Love, I wanted to create a toolkit that makes practicing self love and self care easier, more clear, and more accessible. Through this challenge, I'm going to bring the concepts I write about in the book to life. While reading the book isn't required to take part in the self love challenge, it does offer additional action items, poetry and education to empower your journey. I hope you'll consider picking up a copy on this site or on Amazon. Please...
Should there be a change in cabin pressure… put on your oxygen mask first before helping others. As a new mom, I would roll my eyes every time I heard these instructions before a flight. At the time, I believed I had an invisible cape and that all moms were invincible. I couldn’t comprehend how these flight attendants could suggest for a mother to put herself and her needs before that of her children. As a new mom, I genuinely believed motherhood was synonymous with self-sacrifice. And living with this belief was exhausting. When I was at work, I had...
After a six-month, self care break, the Self Love Pinky Ring is back. And so am I. I’m here to share the backstory, and also to share why this time is different. Six months ago, I had one of the best sales months in Fred and Far’s history. You might ask yourself, “Who would walk away from that? Who would say no to people who want to buy something from you?” That would be me, Melody Godfred, your founder. Even though the business was flourishing, I was breaking. I had recently had my third child, dealt with another health scare,...
During my six-month self care break from selling rings, I re-discovered a lifelong passion: writing poetry. If you are connected with me on Instagram, you know that I write and share original content daily. Here are some of my favorite poems for the last six months. 2020 Update: I'm happy to share that these poems are now part of my new book, Self Love Poetry for Thinkers and Feelers by Melody Godfred. It is available on this website - click here. It includes Melody Godfred's quote about 2020 that went viral as well! "I thought 2020 would be the year I...
Not sure which Self Love Pinky Ring to pick now that there are so many gem options? Not to worry. This quiz will help narrow it down. Keep in mind the quiz only includes the Original style, so if the Mini is more your speed, just apply your gem results to that style. Happy quizzing!
