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25 Principles for Successful Adulting

Adulting is hard. These 25 Principles from John Barlow make it easier. "Adult Principle #1: Be patient. No matter what. Adult Principle #2: Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him. Adult Principle #3: Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you. Adult Principle #4: Expand your sense of the possible. Adult Principle #5: Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change. Adult Principle #6: Don’t ask more of others than you can deliver yourself. Adult Principle #7: Tolerate ambiguity. Adult Principle #8: Laugh...

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The 25 Best Solo Date Ideas for This Weekend (or really, any day you want)

I was sitting with my favorite women talking about all the things we want to do. It was so easy to think of all things we dream of doing, but never make the time or find someone to do them with. Why wait for someone else to take you on your dream date? With Valentine’s Day coming up, seize the opportunity to make time for YOU! In need of some inspiration? Here are 25 of our favorite solo date ideas. Get outdoors. Breathe in some fresh air, take some time to self-reflect, and go on a hike! Spa it up....

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It's time for us to ditch our digital devices!

It’s no secret; technology is becoming more and more intertwined into our daily lives. Whether personal or professional, our phones are constantly buzzing, notifications are popping up in the corner of our computer screens, and new emails are flooding our inboxes. Sometimes this is a good thing -- a sign of a deal being made, a friend confirming a plan for Friday night, or a loved one sending a message that brings a smile to your face. At the same time, everything is best in moderation and in balance. How many times have you and a friend hung out and...

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It's the Fred and Far December Self Love Challenge! Join in on the fun!

We're so very excited to invite you to join us for our December Self Love Challenge. Let's face it. The holidays, while filled with joy, giving, and amazing food, can be incredibly stressful. We're challenging our tribe to remember to care for themselves, while also trying to navigate the trials of the holiday season. You have to treat yourself, too! Join us for all or part of the challenge, so long as you give it your best shot. We're excited to follow along on the adventure, so don't forget to share a picture with the hashtag #fredandfar on Instagram and Facebook! With...

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A Gratitude Meditation for Thanksgiving

When I think about what I'm grateful for, the first place my heart and mind goes to is my tribe. My tribe at home, and my tribe at large, this precious community, the women of Fred and Far. I'm profoundly grateful for each and every one of you. Your stories. Your commitments. Your pasts. Your presents. Your futures - which we now get to witness and celebrate. Thank you for sharing yourselves so authentically, courageously, brilliantly, and abundantly, my self love sisterhood. And so on Thanksgiving, I offer you a Gratitude Meditation that will hopefully serve as a useful tool as...

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How To Channel Your Divine Feminine through Meditation

Learning how to channel and embrace my divine feminine has become an everyday practice for me. My favorite way to channel my divine feminine energy is through the act of mediation. Here is a step-by-step beginners guide for channelling and harnessing your divine feminine power through mediation.  Step One: Find a Binaural Beats Meditation on YouTube I love listening to Binaural beats meditations before bed at night. Depending on what hertz level you choose to listen to, Binaural beats are the perfect sounds to listen to before bed because it will slow your brainwaves. Check out one of my favorite...

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To the Moms Who Do It All: Let's Take a Break

To the mom who burns the grilled cheese you know your sensitive eater won’t eat anyway because you rush out of the kitchen to settle a quarrel over a stuffed animal—I see you. To the mom who is responding furiously to work emails even though it is Saturday while your child gives you a dirty look and says, “All you do is work!”—I see you. To the mom with greasy hair who hasn’t showered for two (okay, let’s be real, three) days, who bathes her kids daily with organic, mommy-group approved soap—I see you, too. All of us are all of...

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Dear Dr. Christina: I'm terrified to fall in love again.

"I have been divorced for almost two years now. I thought he was "the one" and that I could trust him. Turns out he was secretly a sex addict who basically used me for a green card. (He was from England.) I'm terrified to put myself back out there in the dating world. I just can't seem to trust anyone these days and terrified of falling in love again. It's been over a year since I've been intimate with anyone. I'm just scared. I know I need to work on loving myself first, but I keep getting distracted. Any advice?"...

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Stop Listening To Your Brain (And Start Leading It)

Let me know if this has ever happened to you. You text someone, a friend, a lover, a colleague your mom. You ask a question. Something simple, like, "Hey, I miss you! Can we have dinner sooner?" And then crickets. No response. You see the typing bubbles, but nothing. Nothing for one minute, five, ten, an hour a day. By now, what is your brain thinking? If you're anything like me, your brain is preparing for the worst. Your friend doesn't like you anymore. Your lover is going to leave you. Your mom wishes she had given you up for...

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Dear Dr. Christina: I'm just going through the motions.

Is it possible to regain your sex drive?  I seem to have completely lost mine since my daughter was born two years ago.  I just go through the motions to make my husband happy.  I love him madly, but do not have any desire any longer. Hi going through the motions,  First let me say that you are not alone. In fact, lack of desire is one of top concerns women bring to sex therapy. The nature of desire has been a subject I have been passionate to explore and understand.  I have found that understanding how sexual desire works...

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Nature vs. Nurture and the Art of Self Nurture

Nature vs. nurture. A question we’ve been battling since the dawn of time, and yet no definitive answer. That is until now. That's right. I've figured it out. In 2012, I gave birth to twin girls who are polar opposites: Stella Avery and Violet Harper. Stella is a replica of my husband: tall, blonde, fair-skinned, positive, enlightened, fiercely independent. Violet is my mini me: petite, brunette, tan, emotional, imaginative, brown-eyed, and full of love. Five years later, they are exactly who they were at the hospital when they arrived six full weeks early. Watching them grow up has been a matter of validating and...

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Radical Thoughts of Self Love and Self Care Every Day

If you're following us on Instagram @fredandfar, you're probably already familiar with our Radical Thoughts series. For us, radical thoughts are the simple, self-evident truths that easily get overlooked. The truths that need to be proclaimed as radical so that they receive the attention they deserve. Here are some of our favorites. Make sure to follow on Instagram so you get them in real time. This week's Self Love Challenge is to come up with your own Radical Thoughts and share them. The more radical the better. We'll add yours to the list. Fred and Far's Radical Thoughts Radical Thoughts on...